Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Hopes and Dreams

One of J's favorite phrases is hopes and dreams. It was even in his host family letter. He is always telling us that he hopes he lives up to our hopes and dreams. Well, that is an easy task for him. See, I learned along time ago you don't put expectations on this experience. It was one of the pieces of advice that my grandfather gave me for this endeavor. He said to just let things evolve. They never went into it expecting anything because he felt with each individual being so different they would just set the placement up to fail if they expected things. Of course, there were some things unstated that were expected such as rule following and those kind of things, but other than that it was just to let the relationship evolve and see how it developed. Now, some who know the man might think I would be crazy to listen to him. After all, these two were borderline certifiable. Yes, I do love my grandparents, but picture Frank and Marie Barone and you can get the idea of what these kids lived with every day. Not only did they live with them, but they loved these two nutjobs to the point that many kept contact with them. There has to be something said for that. This also got me thinking. I hope that we live up to J's hopes and dreams. Here he is coming to live with a toddler and two people who have never lived through the teen years, or I should say the teen years from the parent perspective. The best part of blogging is that you get to meet other people in the cyberworld. I can say that I now don't feel alone going through this. I am following other blogs where the people involved are in the same situation. We can all go through this together, and hopefully help each other if the need arises. I am feeling like this now, and I still have a few days until the whole reality of the situation hits. Others have that reality sooner. I think I like being in my spot better. Earlier, while reading other blogs, I was a little jealous that others had their kids on their way. Then, it dawned on me. I get to read how that first day goes before I have my first day. Might pick up some pointers. See sometimes having to wait does have it benefits. It does make me glad that I have found others to follow, and I can watch everyones relationship grow and hopefully see hopes and dreams met.

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